10 Secrets to a Triumphant Marriage
In his book, Learning to Live with the Love of Your Life,
Dr. Neil Clark Warren reveals 10 secrets to a triumphant marriage based on his interviews with 100 successful couples and his 30 years of counseling work.
According to Dr. Warren, the following 10 skills are crucial to a joyful, triumphant marriage:
Secret #1: Dream a Dream. If you want your marriage to grow and to be its best, you and your husband need to create a vision for it and your life together.
Secret #2: Get Tough. Marriage takes a lot of work, and a couple must be willing to fully commit to making the marriage strong.
Secret #3: Maximize the Trust Factor. Learn how to be truthful and trustworthy for your husband, and how to trust him in return.
Secret #4: Get Healthy. Marriages have a much greater chance of being successful if both people are emotionally healthy. If one or both of you have personal issues or an unhealthy self-concept, consider seeing a counselor.
Secret #5: Work on Chemistry. Keep the romance strong in your marriage. Discover the reasons you fell in love with each other and build on those.
Secret #6: Learn to Talk. Communication is invaluable in a strong marriage. Take the time to learn good communication skills and use them in your relationship.
Secret #7: Work it Through. Even in the best marriages, conflict will happen. The key to getting through the tough times is to learn the skills of conflict resolution and to come up with a strategy in your marriage.
Secret #8: Negotiate a Mutually Satisfying Sexual Relationship. Both you and your husband need to be willing to work on this aspect of your relationship. Dr. Warren makes several recommendations, including buying a book on marital sex, seeking counseling if needed and improving communication.
Secret #9: Get Connected. Although children can be a drain on a marriage relationship, they can also be the source of joy if their role is viewed correctly.
Secret #10: Pursue Spirituality. Spiritual intimacy in marriage is another great step toward marital fulfillment.
To learn the details of these secrets and practical tips on how to implement them in your marriage, read Warren’s book Learning to Live with the Love of Your Life. This article is based on the book, Learning to Live with the Love of Your Life by Dr. Neil Clark Warren.
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