Finding Fulfillment in Life
Everyone longs to give themselves completely to someone. To have a deep soul relationship with another. To be loved thoroughly and exclusively. But to the Christian, God says: “Wait, not until you are first satisfied, fulfilled, and content with being loved by Me can I bring you true love. You see, first you must give yourself totally and unreservedly to Me, discovering that only in Me is your satisfaction to be found. Only then, will you be capable of the perfect human relationship that I have for you.
You will never be fully united with another until you are united with Me. Exclusive to anyone or anything else, I want you to stop planning, stop wishing and allow Me to bring it to you. You must keep watching and experiencing the satisfaction that I am, expecting Me to do the greatest of things. Most importantly, keep listening and learning the things I show you. Just wait…That’s all!
Don’t be anxious, and don’t worry. Don’t look at the things others have received, or that I have given them. You just keep looking at Me, or you’ll miss what I am teaching you. Then, when you’re ready, I’ll give you a love far more wonderful than any you will ever dream about.
Most of all, I want you to see in his flesh, a picture of your relationship with Me and enjoy the everlasting union of beauty, perfection, and love that I offer you. “Believe it and be satisfied.”
My daughter, until you are ready—I am working even this moment to have you both ready at the same time. Until you are both satisfied and content with me and the life I have prepared for you; you won’t be able to experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with Me, thus, perfect love.
This poem entitled, Perfect Love, is a beautiful illustration of God’s perfect design for our lives. He wants to become our “first love.” From different painful experiences that I (Gary) have been through, I’ve learned that I was looking for love, peace and joy in all the wrong places. In other words, I had spent a lifetime looking for a sense of significance and security. But I was looking for that in the wrong location.
Since then, I’ve learned that we all have similar goals in life. If our lives were like a cup, each one of us would love to fill it with wisdom, love, joy, and peace. We’d like to have our lives overflow with positive emotions and genuine fulfillment in life. At a very early age, we begin to look for what we think can fill up our cups with these positive qualities. Unfortunately, most of us look to people or things for the fullness of life we really want. Yet, like a mirage, these sources shimmer with fulfillment, but only bring dust to our souls.
Coming Up Empty in Life…
At some times in our lives, we run headlong into an inescapable fact. Life is not fulfilling. It’s actually often unfair and exhausting. We can never pour enough people or things into our personal cups to keep our lives filled and overflowing with the contentment we want so much. No wonder so many people leading lives of emotional desperation consider suicide as a way out. By focusing on people and things, we miss the positive emotions we want, and are saddled with the very negative emotions we’ve tried all our lives to avoid! This is true of hurt feelings, worry, anxiety, fear, unrest, uncertainty and confusion because we are depending on a person or thing for “life.” But those who are wise realize there is a pathway to freedom, away from that unfulfilled feeling.
Seeking First the Source of Life…
Matthew 6:33 clearly shows us our source of life. “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” In my (Gary) life, when God is in first place, He promises to meet all my needs. I try to love God with all my heart. In other words, He’s the highest priority in my life. When I focus on Jesus Christ as the sole Source of my life, an amazing thing happens. Because He loves me and actually possesses the wisdom, love, peace and joy I’ve always wanted, He alone can overflow my cup. That’s exactly what He promises to do for His children: “This love…surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God” (Ephesians 3:19). Can you be any more filled than full? Absolutely not.
If I (Gary) ever start to feel worry, fear, hurt, or any other negative emotion, I thank God for them. Then I pray and ask forgiveness for focusing on something that is less than Himself. Finally, I ask Him alone to fill my life. Psalm 62 says that we are to wait and hope in God alone. He’s our rock, our salvation, our rear guard, our hiding place. He’s everything we’ll ever need! Nothing on this earth compares to knowing Him (Philippians 3:7-9).
Perhaps you find yourself searching for true fulfillment in life or would like to reaffirm your commitment to the Lord, we encourage you to pray this simple prayer:
Lord, I admit that I have been plugged into people and things. Right now I confess this sin and thank you for your forgiveness. I promise from this day forward to use your gift of grace through Christ as my source of life. I will continue to do what you have written: “I will wait upon the Lord to have my strength renewed. I will allow you to fill me with all of fullness of yourself. I will have life within me only because I have Jesus above all else and then I’ll know that all the things I need will be added unto me.” Amen.
As you become satisfied and content with God and the life He has prepared for you; you will be able to experience the love and fulfillment that exemplifies your relationship with Him, thus, perfect love.
Taken with permission from Greg and Gary Smalley. Greg Smalley, Psy.D. is director of Marriage Ministries for the Center for Relationship Enrichment on the campus of John Brown University in Siloam Springs, Arkansas. Greg is the author or co-author of eight books concerning marriages and families. Visit Greg at www.liferelationships.com.
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