Did you know you can pick up some great parenting tips from marathoners? It’s true! Marathoners have to be tough, physically and mentally. But most of them will tell you the key to your success in a marathon is the mental side of the race. Twenty-six miles is a long haul, and your mindset affects your ability to endure the physical challenge.
Parenting is much the same. Eighteen years is a long time, too. If you don’t have a marathon mindset, you’ll lose your focus and miss opportunities to set a healthy pace from the starting line. Here are 5 parenting tips that runners sign off on. Using these will help you run this long race well.
1. Come off the starting line slower than you want to.
Moms are in overdrive from the moment we find out we’re expecting. We read books, enroll our babies in enrichment activities, and feel the pressure of being new parents. Slow down. While the first few years of your child’s development are important and should be handled with lots of love and care, what your child needs at this point is lots of time with you and healthy doses of stimulation in the form of play. Just like a marathoner who runs the first few miles too fast only to pay for it later in fatigue and frustration, moms who are overly stressed about achievement in the toddler and preschool years are burning up fuel that would be better saved for a later day. So, Mom, this is one of those parenting tips worth repeating: Slow down.
2. Take the race one mile at a time.
Experienced marathoners will tell you that, especially early in a race, it’s a bad idea to think about that hill at mile 20. Sure, you need an overall plan geared toward certain big-picture goals. But worrying about whether your kid will choose the arts or sports in high school while he’s still in fourth grade borrows worries from tomorrow. What is best for him this year? What would he benefit from and enjoy the most right now? Kids change as they grow. You may be surprised by the talents your child exhibits or the preferences he shows two, four, or six years from now. Just run the mile you’re in and deal with the others as they come.
3. Hydrate, hydrate, hydrate.
Runners know that to last through an hours-long race, they must take in fluids regularly along the way to replace what they’re losing. In the same way, you need to feed your heart and mind in every stage of parenting in order to have the stamina to finish well. A small group or parent-focused Bible study is a great way to replenish what you’ll pour out for your kids throughout the years.
4. A support system can push you along when you’re sinking.
Some distance runners wouldn’t think of tackling a marathon alone because they know how much they benefit from the steady companionship and encouragement of a partner. When one is flagging, the other can say, “Hang in there! We can do this!” Your supporters—family, friends, and fellow parents—are like great running partners for parenting. When you are frustrated or discouraged, they can be the cheerleaders who provide the positive outlook your family needs or the runners who assist you up a difficult hill. Draw on the encouragement your support system provides.
5. Make it your goal to run negative splits.
Some parents burn up so much emotional capital in the early years of parenting that they’re worn out by the time their kids are teens. But your kids still really need you, even if they don’t always act like it. Runners say the best races of their lives are the ones in which they ran “negative splits”—or ran faster in the later miles of the race than they did in the early miles. By managing their mental and physical resources, they had the power to finish strong. Manage your parenting mindset so your focus, your experience, and your intensity are still growing in those crucial teen years.
What parenting tips would you add to the list?
