It’s been another full day of school, errands, ballet, dinner, and baths. With younger kids in bed and older kids studying in their rooms, the house is finally quiet. As a single mom, I cherish these quiet moments when I can finally breathe, think my own thoughts, and get some work done without interruptions. But the stillness also brings with it a heavy reminder: I’m alone.
Loneliness is a reality many single moms face, even in a house full of kids. And even when dating resumes, the ache of solitude can linger. Are you feeling the weight of loneliness as a single mom? Try these 6 powerful ways to combat feeling like a lonely single mom and find connection instead.
1. Cultivate deep friendships.
Loneliness happens when there’s no one to share life with, to talk through the questions or the ups and downs of our days. Nourishing deep friendships can curb loneliness as we have people in our lives who know us, who love us, and who remind us of how awesome we are when we forget. Where do you start? Find a FaceTime friend you can call after the kids go to bed. Join an online book club or Bible study. Follow through with that coffee date with the mom from your kid’s class. Be intentional about building community.
2. Temper time on social media.
Spending too much time on social media might distract us momentarily from loneliness, but it won’t eliminate it and could actually worsen it. The constant barrage of others’ vacation pictures and life celebrations can leave us feeling left out and even more alone. Better to tame the time we spend on social media.
3. Pursue your passions.
Admittedly, it’s tough to find time as a single mom, but carving out time for hobbies and interests can bring deep satisfaction with an added bonus of connection to new groups and people who share our interests. Try something you’ve never done before to see if you discover a new talent.
4. Don’t believe the lies at night.
This one is huge because loneliness is often hardest at night and can quickly escalate to despair. Don’t believe the lies loneliness tries to feed you at 2 a.m. Giving in to the lies will increase your loneliness. If nighttime is a particular struggle, go to bed early and get up with the sun. Mornings usually bring clarity and hope.
5. Feed your soul.
Whether through Bible study, prayer, meditation, or mindfulness, feeding your soul is essential for emotional and spiritual well-being. Keeping a gratitude journal, practicing yoga, or taking a walk outside can offer peace and clarity. Prioritize time for these activities. Even just a few quiet moments each day can refresh your spirit, offering renewed energy to face the challenges of being a single mom.
6. Use it for good.
Understanding what loneliness feels like can help us become more compassionate and reach out to others who are hurting. Text your friend who recently lost her husband. Send a “just because” card to your high school bestie going through a divorce. By reminding others that they aren’t alone, you’ll find yourself a little less lonely yourself.
How do you battle loneliness in your life?
